Recently, my therapist and I talked about the difficulty I was having in doing some of the things that we knew would help my mood, such as exercising.
He has told me before that action comes before motivation.
During this conversation, he put it a little differently.
He said people who are happy don’t go around feeling happy all the time.
What they do, he said, is choose to do things according to their values. They do things that are meaningful to them, that make their lives meaningful.
Which, for me, begs the question, what are my values?
Of course, I can tell you my basic values. I believe in loving my neighbor, in treating others with goodness, in not doing things like stealing and lying.
But how am I allowing those values to filter down into my everyday life, my everyday choices?
If I choose to exercise, what is my value behind that? If I choose to have a positive attitude, what is my value behind that?
I’m especially focused on this right now because of my new work schedule and the new choices I’ll have about how to spend my time.
I think I can work on clarifying my values in two ways. Both include writing.
I can write down what I think my values are.
And I can write down how I spend my time and how I want to spend my time, and see how my values align with that.
I believe that by being able to name my values, I’ll be able to make better choices in the things I do.
I’ll let you know how it goes!
How aware are you of your values as you make your daily choices?